You found my personal account! If you know me from formal or irl spaces, you probably shouldn't look in here. Proceed at your own risk.
27 Clichéd transfem. Poly cuddle slut. Nonsexual little. Frequent meower. Kinky pervert. I pee myself a lot. I reject my own dignity.
I contribute code somewhere, but I forgot where.
I like to be referred to as "kitten" or "little one". You can do that if you want and it'll make me happy but it's not a requirement (also don't use the latter in adult contexts)
formerly @me@elizabeth.cat
"a pervert who lost control over their life"
Location
Europe
Birthday
1999-03-02
Pronouns
they/them (EN)
Pronounsthey/them, although fem terms are also good
one guy at work called me "Eli" the other day and it was a lighthearted "wait, since when are we on shortname terms? also you just picked the one you saw fit huh"
it is nice to hear it, especially the short version since almost no one in my irl life uses it, it's just that I'm at that point where most people just call me "kitten"
it also feels weird because I don't have it anywhere in my profile anymore, other than my instance domain name
but... yeah. for those new around here, I'm Elizabeth. or Elise for short.
@littlebonni I use Abena M4 for everyday wearing. not sure about the trash, I just have a big trashcan in my bathroom and empty it 2 or 3 times a week (?)
discussing my kinky lifeI know that I'm... quite confidently kinky, and thus people will see it and maybe assume that at this point what I do is not new to me...
I can assure you that's not the case. I'm still asking myself how did I end up here
kink, D/sthe thought of disobeying my Miss is scary. it might happen, even if try to avoid it.
maybe we end up reaching something beyond what I am ready to offer. maybe she purposefully puts me in a situation where I am unable to fulfill her wishes.
and... I embrace whatever that brings to me. I know that if it happens it will be because it had to happen, for one reason or the other. it's still scary though.
discussing kinky dynamicsone thing that pairs quite bad with not considering this is this common situation of struggling to express one's needs and not wanting to annoy anyone with them.
because one might come to the conclusion of "oh, I don't want to annoy (playmate) having them do stuff I desire, I better just avoid asking for it"
when maybe that being would love beating you up, or leashing you, or putting you in diapers, or whatever it is you want, and you end up removing one opportunity for both of you to enjoy it together. and of course, that other being is also responsible for expressing themselves if they want that something... but they can't always be the ones to be doing all the work.
discussing kinky dynamicsinternalizing that people who take dominant positions in kink do so because they like it feels like an important step in learning to be someone nice and comfortable to play with.
if one approaches D/s as something the dominant side does for the submissive, it's easy to forget that there has to be something in it for them too, that they are also seeking something they desire. there might be things they do specifically for the sub's enjoyment (and maybe enjoy themselves because of that), but they still have their own desires that are equally important to address, and to do it as something for them.
I submit because it is something I desire, but when I offer that to someone, I do it knowing that that someone seeks control, power, trust, inflicting pain, whatever specific thing they enjoy about it. not because I think they're doing me a favor.
