diapers@kitten reaching this settled, permanent place in a setting which is good for you and which was non-trivial to reach is such a beautiful feeling Especially when it feels increasingly irreversible (though I personally need to be careful, because my version of this always depends on the consent of someone else).
diapers, philosophical rambling@kitten this is the core aspect of what queerness means to me: building your own way of living completely outside of societal norms and expectations, based purely on “I like this, it harms no one, and it’s good for me”.