pathetic piss kitten (@kitten)

discussing poly stuff

monogamous people seem to consider an immense disrespect to have sex with someone and then go back home to your partner waiting for you, even in the context of a poly relationship

I guess it's just something inherent to seeing having sex with other people as something bad. but still, feels weird for it to be such a difficult thing to get

gushing about being in an open relationship as an ace person, abstract mention of sexuality, re: discussing poly stuff

@kitten Wait… what?

I can kinda see it with monogamous relationships, but if it’s poly or (as in my case) open from the start: WHY?

That’s the deal! I let someone else take care of the satisfying my partner’s needs, so I don’t have to, it’s a win-win-win, so why would anyone mind here?

And honestly: Treating sex as something fully independent of the relationship, similar to say membership in a sports club, is an unbelievably amazing thing for the relationship itself! I couldn’t have believed the extend to which this holds before I came into this situation! It’s wild!

We effectively removed an entire class of potential relationship problems regarding sexual incompatibility as a factor in our relationship, which really focused it on the parts that actually matter: The romance, the partnership, the cuddling, all those things that truly matter.
I honestly cannot imagine the prospect of a closed relationship anymore, even ignoring the sexuality itself fully, introducing such a pointless point of contention just feels like a horrible deal.
And that’s coming from the girl who is generally not seeing other people in this kind of relationship.

gushing about being in an open relationship as an ace person, abstract mention of sexuality, re: discussing poly stuff

@kitten The more I think about it, the better the sports/music/whatever club membership seems to fit as a way to view things:

In any healthy relationship it is fine if one partner is a member of such a club while the other isn’t and it’s also fine if you have a primary partner that you are doing things with in that kind of club. Be it a sparing partner in martial arts, another player in a musical duo, a dancing partner, you name it…

I’m not saying that there have never been cases of someone getting jealous over that, but that’s why I said “healthy”.

For me at least it is such that I always say that I prefer when Senna is on a sex-date over her having a medical appointment, because the former is easier to reschedule if something comes up on short notice. Because scheduling really is the only factor for me here.