dealing with mistakes
There has been something on my mind for weeks now, and I'm a bit unhappy with how I haven't been able to properly put it into words...I made some pretty bad mistakes during play with @kitten due to inattentiveness and a lack of diligence on my side. It's been ok, for both of us, and I think we're both pretty happy with how we handled the situation - it's one of those cases where the response to the failure reinforced our mutual trust... But I haven't really been able to write about it, because it would have felt like me praising myself for how "wonderful" I handled everything, and that's just not what I want to do, I'm thankful as fuck that I was actually able to handle the situation in a way that made my kitten feel safe and taken care of, but I'm not a better person or someone less likely to hurt someone because of that...
And yet, talking about these things is extremely important. The only reason why I managed to deal with these mistakes was because the person I trust most once spoke up about this topic, and gave me a perspective that works for me. She no longer talks in public about this (and other important topics), and even she agrees that that's sad. So the only thing that I can do is try to spread what I learned from her - which I did last week and the week before, but yeah, these posts rarely reach anyone.
It's just... I feel like my life never prepared me to deal with my own fallibility and the mistakes of others up until back then, and it's sad that healthy dealing with these things is such a non-topic.
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