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27 Clichéd transfem. Poly cuddle slut. Nonsexual little. Frequent meower. Kinky pervert. I pee myself a lot. I reject my own dignity.
I contribute code somewhere, but I forgot where.
I like to be referred to as "kitten" or "little one". You can do that if you want and it'll make me happy but it's not a requirement (also don't use the latter in adult contexts)
formerly @me@elizabeth.cat
"a pervert who lost control over their life"
Location
Europe
Birthday
1999-03-02
Pronouns
they/them (EN)
Pronounsthey/them, although fem terms are also good
@cinnamon can you believe that you gave me this, and I forgot that it was a water tattoo?? :neocat_cry_loud: I had just been looking at stickers so I thought it was a sticker
(lewd?) events, related to 39c3 FLINTA cruisingand on a more "practical level" here, there's a lot of ways of handling situations where one feels that FOMO other than just not attending that stuff. like, we are all curious beings, even beyond what our specific desires might be, that is also true. but:
-it's okay if you attend and end up not making out with anyone, either because you didn't find anyone you liked, or vice versa. yeah, it sucks at the time, but it's a lot better than kissing someone you didn't want to, or being the counterpart of that.
-it's okay to just go and not try to meet anyone, just go there and watch. maybe you just wanted to see how did it go, or like the idea of witnessing such a cute and intimate situation. as long as you do it respectfully and non-creepily, it's fine, sit wherever and watch (some of us even get off on that, so, thanks!)
-it's okay to just change your mind once you're already there. maybe it wasn't as you imagined, or you aren't as ready or as desiring of that kind of interactions as you thought. no shame in reconsidering.
(lewd?) events, related to 39c3 FLINTA cruisingthere's something I meant to write about and... I'm not really sure if it's the best moment to do so, but I think it's a fairly important topic.
so, this is something I've been thinking about because of the 39c3 FLINTA cruising session, but it's very much not limited to that, nor the cause for it.
I feel this year the word got spread and it got a lot more "popular" and "known", which might have created a general feeling of FOMO, or at least that's what I perceived. so, you have this event, which everybody is talking about, everyone says how much they enjoyed it last time, all your friends are planning on going... so you end up, in a way, and through no one's fault, feeling pressured to also attend.
but the thing is this kind of stuff is not really for everyone. everyone (who is an adult who understands consent) is more than welcome, of course. no one will judge you or gatekeep access beyond that. but yeah, it's really not for everyone, and not only that, it's the kind of thing you really don't want to force yourself into
do you want to kiss a stranger? do you feel ready and capable to do so? are you able to be in a room with such many (also nervous) people? to be looked at and checked out? and approached with such a direct question as "wanna make out?" (either verbally or in other ways)?
and to be clear, while for a lot of us the answer to that is a very enthusiastic "yes!!", we might still feel a bit overwhelmed at times too. I did feel like that during the beginning of this last one because there were too many people and it was getting too warm and too much for me, for example. but yeah, the important thing here is, I knew it wasn't something I was feeling pressured to do.
so, yeah, I think this is something that maybe we should pay more attention to. it's easier said than done, but at the end of the day these things only work if we are sincere about our own desires and wants, not only to others, but specially to ourselves.
poly stuff, familyit feels bad because it's been long already since I stopped updating then about my affectionate relationships, and I don't want the people close to me to feel like I'm trying to hide them. but yeah, there's no point.
poly stuff, familywe live surrounded by people with the best of intentions and still no ability to understand and empathize with us. and it makes one feel completely disconnected from them.
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