pathetic piss kitten (@kitten)

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there's a lot of "drama" associated to these kind of events and in a way it's legitimate, issues and mistakes should be pointed out and discussed (and some are less excusable)

but I also see some general negativity and cynicism that just... feels plain unhealthy, and not really constructive

there were fuck-ups at WHY. responsibilities should be taken and it should be prevented in the future. but still, I loved the event, I had a super nice time, and I'm super happy to have decided to come here.

I saw and heard some similar stuff regarding the FLINTA cruising from last weekend, and I feel exactly the same, with the difference that in there I can't even think of any actual issues (also, in that case it was sometimes coated in a layer of slutshaming that some people should really work on).

hacker events discourse, hot take

I don't know. what I'm trying to say is that sometimes I get some very negative vibes when it comes to this stuff

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@kitten most of the time it boils down to “how dare you have fun without my permission”

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@lis yes. and you know, that is kind of an understandable feeling, at least in an "empathizing" way. but then maybe that's what people should express, "I don't like people enjoying themselves without me", or "I can't go to this thing and that makes me upset and try to find a reason to not want to go" at least are feelings one can start working with

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@kitten but that requires a desire for empathy on both sides. You see, here I have this lever labled “social power”, and it’s really easy to find a group of righteous warriors for my own side who will give me a feeling of relevance and moral superiority, so why shouldn’t I pull it?