@mpk@iro_miya oh, screw that notion. asking stuff can be hot. specially because having someone recognize and say out loud that they want to kiss/fuck/whatever you is very nice and hot
affection@kitten similarly, I had a case a few days ago where that girl moved next to me and we started snuggling and looking at each others' eyes, and even though it was getting obvious, I asked "are you into me?" and she said "yeah,, what about you, are you also into me?" and I said "yeah" and that was so freaking hot and it did escalate into me asking for a kiss
Honestly, the verbal stuff was more hot because it reflected truly the reciprocity of out feelings
@iro_miya@kitten i don't like nonverbal consent, because it's always so uncertain. i think i sorta manage to do it, with people who prefer to not do verbal consent, but it's less fun.
i miss having close friends, where we just have established rules for shit, and i can trust them to tell me if i do something wrong
@kitten@iro_miya hey just because it's obvious doesn't mean anyone is going to act on it I met Antonia for the first time on a Wednesday, and in retrospect I absolutely cannot believe we didn't kiss, but neither of us asked and we waited until the second time that we met on the following Monday (which was essentially when she moved in with me)
@kitten@iro_miya we were cuddling and looking at each other for the most wonderful eternity of my life, but neither of us dared to ask (at least she initiated everything by asking "would anyone here like to cuddle" to which I said yes^^)
@kitten@iro_miya I don't think I've ever asked anyone for cuddles, and I'm pretty sure I've never asked anyone for kisses As you will probably have noticed, Antonia is someone who is very open to physical closeness and who offers it a lot. I'm very different, I have a really hard time with opening up this way. It's not unusual for me to sit beside her while she is cuddling some friend that I wouldn't feel comfortable cuddling. I believe there are exactly three people in this world who met me, offered cuddles within the first half hour of meeting, and received a yes from me^^
kink experiences disproving my claim@kitten@iro_miya (okay, plus the one being where we essentially just had a short and very basic scene negotiation via texting, in which we agreed to meet fully blindfolded and to be tied to each other under the supervision of a mutually trusted being, we didn't see each other or talk to each other for the first hour of, well, enforced cuddles^^ That's the other extreme that I'm apparently capable of, I am a weird person^^ )
kink experiences disproving my claim@iro_miya@kitten@lis there is extensive photographic documentation of it hidden in a dark corner of fedi, and yes, it was one of the most exciting things that I’ve ever done^^
@kitten@iro_miya sometimes if you praise green enough, they will just go like "do you wanna make out? 😳" very fast, while you two are in the middle of a crosswalk
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