discussing kink (when it goes badly)
when I agree to some (kinky) playtime with someone, I consent to playing/hurting them/tying them/whatever as long as it's ultimately for their enjoyment or fulfillment
not enjoying some act or dynamic and still not communicating it to your play companion, out of fear of disappointing them or not meeting their expectations, is a big betrayal of trust
discussing kink (when it goes badly)
sometimes we want to try things and explore new stuff, and it ends up not going well and not being enjoyed as we expected. that is okay, of course. tbh it's a hardly avoidable part of kink, and it can still be a positive learning experience in a way
discussing kink (when it goes badly)
of course, there's also the counterpart of this. I demand from my companions to be honest and open about how they feel in that sense, but that means I also need to lay the base for that to be feasible. I won't be mad at someone for wanting to end any kinky dynamic we might have. I won't be disappointed in someone for asking to stop while playing because it doesn't feel good for them anymore. and so on
sometimes stuff just doesn't go well for whatever reason, and expressing it, even if doing that hurts or negatively impacts any part, is the right thing to do
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