pathetic piss kitten (@kitten)

trans stuff

making negative comments about cis people sometimes feels bad because the few that will actually read them are probably the ones to whom they are not directed

trans stuff

@kitten
The cis people who are worth keeping around know this.

trans stuff

I guess the key concept that sometimes is not considered here is: you're the edge case.

you can be very nice and kind to your trans friends. but the thing is, every day, every single other person we have to interact with, makes us feel a little bit more disconnected from cis people.

I'm not even talking about those interactions involving hate or bigotry. but most of them do usually include something that will remind us how most people find it extremely difficult to empathize with us, with our lives, with our experiences.

every day, every person we meet.

it's difficult.

trans stuff

I'm sorry. this world just breaks us.

trans stuff

@kitten ❤️

trans stuff

@kitten And at the same time probably the only ones that will feel like you are talking about them and feel bad…

The solution really is not to speak badly about people based on their membership in minority/majority groups, but based on their behavior. That is in fact the line that separates true progressivism from performative membership in a political camp that is as exchangeable as a football club you are routing for.

I believe in fact that a widely underestimated amount of harmful hatred is the result of people hating properties that they somehow think of as proxys for the actual problems, rather than hating those problematic properties:

Think about people who have any form of (actual) negative experience with poor people, foreigners, uneducated people, you name it…

None of these properties make someone a bad person, but a person that has those properties can still be an asshole and we need to be willing to call out the asshole part of the behavior, without allowing anyone to guide to the innocent property instead.

It’s the “I don’t like 𝑋, because 𝑌. You don’t like 𝑋 because 𝑍. We are not the same!” meme. Reasons matter. In some instances more than the actual opinion.

trans stuff

@Fiona

The solution really is not to speak badly about people based on their membership in minority/majority groups, but based on their behavior

I mean, yes, but that's sometimes not achievable. like, if I say "I don't seek affection with cis people anymore because it's just too risky"... it's just how it is. like, it's not "speaking badly" per se, but can still make people feel bad